Tuesday, January 3, 2012

Wolfy? Is that you?!

We've got this reincarnation theme going on at the moment in our house, ever since Ian was born and we knew he had done this before.

Then Ryan realised Ian had the same hair colour as Wolfy, our old dog and.....


Wolfy wondering what he's done to deserve this!

Now it's between Wolfy having found a way to be allowed up onto the couch and a little old Asian man in saffron robes from Tibet wondering what the heck he did to end up as a funny looking white boy in Australia.


Om.

Monday, January 2, 2012

12 years Later - A Day at SeaWorld Australia

Stars at SeaWorld.

If you'd have told me twelve years ago in the birthing suite of Stamford Hospital in Connecticut that I would be spending the day at SeaWorld on the Gold Coast in Australia with Damon, our newborn daughter, Ryan, and her four younger brothers - including a set of twins -  twelve years later I honestly wouldn't have cared.

Okay, I might have been a bit psyched about the whole twin thing in the future, but for the most part I wouldn't have believed that life got any better than it was at the moment my daughter was born.  (For the record, I was content when Andrew was born, elated with the twins, and frankly, just a bit pissed off and suffering from loss of blood when Ian arrived on the fast train recently.)

Peaceful moment at the shark tank.
If you'd have told me about the intervening ten years in France and Germany - well, I don't think that is something we need to talk about.  People ask me often how I did it.  Folks, I had NO idea what I was getting myself into...ignorance is bliss and all that jazz.

But I did it.  I got through the big, fat, hairy, ugly mess...climbed the mountain...met some really cool people in the crossing....and found the beach on the other side.  Literally, in my case.

I'm not saying that life is going to be all smooth sailing from here on in but, let me get away from the pithy sayings and give you the rundown of our day at SeaWorld as an example.

Birthday girl in the audience.
The bakery was closed for the holidays. (Aussies felt ripped off that New Year's occured on a Sunday and so wrote themselves an extra day onto the books on Tuesday.  Same for Christmas.  We work hard, but let's not get too crazy and work as often as the Americans have to!  After all, where has that gotten them?!)

So we had the brownies I had baked the night before for breakfast.  No worries.

A few minutes later, on M1 South from Brisbane to the Gold Coast, Matthew informed us from the back seat of the car that he had to vomit.  Maybe the brownies hadn't been such a good idea.  We pulled off onto the emergency break, had a breather, and relocated him to the middle seat next to the baby - Ryan's usual spot - with the air on full blast and a plastic bag in his lap.


Thumbs up from Matthew.  Good to go.
Half an hour later - almost to Sea World - he vomited profusely into the bag.  Twice.  I reached from the front seat of the car, handed him a napkin and a bottle of water, tied up the bag and placed it into a second scented disposable nappy bag.  While Damon kept driving.

We recollected fondly the chocolate cake vomiting incident on the highway from Stuttgart to Belgium on Andrew's second birthday.

And made it to SeaWorld in time to take in the first dolphin show.

Ryan meets Nicki and Nala.
Matthew rallied bravely, surviving on donuts, churros, coke, a snowcone and a bite of Dagwood Dog for the rest of the day.  As well as a rather nasty tumble outside the Ray Exhibit, where a nice lady from Sydney whipped out her emergency kit and gave us two band-aids to staunch the bleeding on his side and elbow.  (I have not yet mastered the knack of bringing an emergency kit, and not yet had the need, since someone else nearby has usually mastered it for me!)

Aidan confidently had popcorn for lunch while the others had their snowcones.  And also rallied from his decision to watch the Sponge Bob 3-D movie a second time while Andrew and Damon went to the pirate ship to join in the water gun battles.  He was a bit disappointed to learn, upon coming out of the theatre, that you really can't be in two places at one time, even at the very rapid and energetic age of five, but managed to forget about it fairly quickly racing up and down the penguin exhibit, torn between watching them underwater on the bottom level and seeing the baby penguin sleeping on his mother's (father's?) feet on the upper one.

A butt, but a cute butt.
Maybe if all those other people hadn't been in the way he COULD have picked up enough speed to be in both places at once.

"Nice rallies on everyone's part." I told the boys on the way to the car later.

"I didn't rally." answered Andrew.  Rather truculently, I might add.

"No.  But you didn't even have to.  Better yet, mate." 

We like this one!

If you'd have told ANYONE who knew Andrew as a baby in France that you could go a whole day - let alone an hour - without hearing him scream - they wouldn't have believed it. 

And the birthday girl.  Doesn't the photo say it all?  (We are looking into geting copies for the family from http://www.myfun.com/.au - just in case you can do it yourselves!)



We sat in the front row - almost missed having her picked by having the announcer note the baby and tell us they couldn't allow a baby into the show - and then waved and screamed loud enough to catch his attention a second time and tell him it was her birthday.

The three kids picked were from America (originally from America she said) South Africa and England.  Which we thought was kinda funny! Since Australians are even more uncomfortable with 'Ryan' as a girl's name than the  Germans were  - the announcer passed right over it after he asked - she has to explain herself.  As well as that funny accent.  We might be able to pull it off as a Brisbane accent farther afield from here - like in Darwin or Perth - but were too close to home to pull it off this time around!
Any Aussies in the audience?!  (Hey, it IS a nation of immigrants!)

Ryan spent the rest of the day being recognized as the girl who was in the dolphin show.  And, as it turned out when we went to pick up the photo at the end of the day, having her picture hanging, framed, in the photo shop out front!

Her favourite animals are the rays, gliding through the water with quiet elegance, giving off an impression of hidden, ancient wisdom and serenity.

(Shame about the whole Steve Irwin thing really.)

Ryan's favourite place to be, the Ray Tank.

Lower my expectations?  Turns out I don't have to.  My daughter - she of the Third Grade Math series - has exceeded them in every way.  Having set them high to begin with makes it even better.

And the day at SeaWorld?  I've got the vomit-in-the-car and the blood-on-the-pavement as well as the surviving-all-day-on-sugary-snacks (because the alternative is a $70.00 greasy burger and fries carbo meal) thing down pat. 

So that I am able to enjoy the sight of my daughter gently waving her hands in the water as the rays glide by.

Opening presents the night before.  Good thing too, because Meka sent the purple shirt she wore for the day from the USA!

And make it a perfect day, after all.

Sage Advice Revised

I will never forget the advice my Peace Corps liason gave me back in Haiti.

"Lower your expectations." she told me.

My first and my last.
Never ever ever EVER forget it because it was the worst advice I'd ever ever EVER heard. 

Although well meant and, in retrospect, rather suited to life working in government.

I prefer the poster hanging in the Reflection Room at Lawnton State School.

"A goal is a dream with a deadline."

(Have I mentioned how much I love this school?!)

Traveling light!  (And yes, I am missing one!)
The thing is that my expectations are what drive me to achieve.  I accomplish more -make those dreams into a reality - because I do expect more.

The fact that they are so high are also what make me feel like I can never accomplish enough, though and I like to think that this is what my Peace Corps liason was refering too. 

So that the best advice so far is printed on a little placard (still packed up in a box somewhere behind the bar) given to me by my mother.  Although I don't have to make this up, it fits nicely into the story, don't you think?!

"MAKE PEACE WITH IMPERFECTION."

Andrew's camera.  (Plight of the dolphin or the beauty of it?)
Make peace with imperfection.

I think we should stop and meditate on it.

Daily.

Hourly on days that need it.

What it means is that I don't have to clean the entire house before I sit down to write, the way I used to be able to clean my entire apartment before sitting to study for an exam in vet school.  Cathartic, yes.  Necessary?  Not if I ever want to get anything else done but clean the house.

What it means is that I have gone from needing to clean the entire house to being able to just focus on a room or two at a time.  Which has, since the arrival of more and more kids, developed into just making sure the kitchen and bathroom meet basic standards of hygiene.  And lately, just that the sink and toilet get done. 

What it means is focusing on what's really important to me despite the clutter that is life.

January 1, 2012
Accepting that the clutter will always be there, in my mind as well as in my life.

And moving beyond it. 

It doesn't mean not trying to end world hunger, but not letting it get you down when yet another natural disaster claims more innocent lives.

And, most likely because Aussies tend to like you for who you are instead of judge you for who you are not, it means you don't have to have the perfect household, car, job or children, to like yourself.

Perfection at the Peace Pagoda in South Bank
C'mon.  I know you aren't supposed to care what other people think of you, but how good can you feel about yourself if your German neighbours don't feel comfortable coming into your home unless the dishes are done?

The nice thing is that this advice also allows you to forgive them for it and move on.

To forgive yourself for what you haven't done and focus on what you have.

If life really is, as I have said, in the big, fat, hairy painful struggle  (or as Miley Cyrus has stated a bit more eloquently, it's the climb) I like that my high expectations can still be there, without bogging me down in the business of getting on with it.

Reality at same said pagoda!
Make peace with imperfection.

And discover that life really is just fine the way it is.

Sunday, January 1, 2012

Christmas Without Snow: Summer Holiday Photos Continued

One of my favourite TV commercials here has university students from the University of the Sunshine Coast at a rally in support of those less fortunate than themselves. 

The leader of the rally urgently describes the plight of those poor university students in the cities.

"They only have a beach that is a few hundred meters long." he explains to oohs of disbelief.

"Yes.  That's really small."  he continues, shaking his head sadly.

Pause for the punch line.

"And it doesn't even have any waves."

You gotta love a country that knows how good they have it.

So, once again, do we miss the snow?

Feel sorry for us all you like!  Our lagoon in Brisbane doesn't have any waves!

Won't they be surprised once I AM walking!


Well Aidan, we just won't tell anyone Mommy is drinking a Margarita while breastfeeding!  (December 22, South Bank, Brisbane)

Wrestling Daddy at the lagoon in South Bank, already rebuilt from last January's flood.
Matthew at South Bank lagoon.

Ian and Daddy at South Bank.
Ian greets the local sea urchins, Aidan and Ryan.

Christmas morning.
Looks like Santa knows where Australia is after all.

What?!  No turkey for Christmas?!
And all Ian got for Christmas was this palm frond that fell into the pool.

Zianda, Chris and Ollie came to wish Ian a Merry First Christmas.
Ice cream!  Ice cream!  (Days after Christmas.)

Um, no, not missing the snow!
Would you mess with THIS mob?!  (Sea World, Gold Coast, for Dad's birthday on December 29)

Can't do this in the snow!
Sea lion show.
Ian.  Because I couldn't very well end with a sea lion now could I?!
2011 is over.  It was one of the most turbulent years in Queensland recorded history: flooding, cyclones, earthquakes in Christ Church and Japan, record high rainfall and record low temperatures.  The latter two which affected us not at all since the worst lows here still made it warm and sunny in comparison to Europe. 

2011 is also the year Ian was born and the year we began our lives as Aussies.

It feels right that we should have been here for the floods, to share in the tragedy and the rebuilding, the sense of community and good will, the knowledge that although we do live in a country of violent extremes, it is still the lucky country.

Even without snow for Christmas!

Holiday Photos: Waiting For Christmas

The birthday girl out for a nighttime swim in the pool.
There's always been talk amongst those living in temperate climates in the Northern Hemisphere. 

"Won't you miss the snow at Christmas time?"

Uh no.



Ryan's end-of-year gymkhana. 
Santa's vacation home in Queensland.
Turns out gingerbread travels well.
What happens to the front hallway when next year's school supplies are added to the stockings, cards and overseas gifts.
Decorating for Christmas.  (Note the Queensland Advents Wreath!)
Plus mangoes!

Camping in the backyard for Ryan's birthday party.
Where you end up on the beach with a baby.
The boys play outside.
Andrew dives.

Aidan poses.

What happens when you leave the camera out and turn your back for one minute.
And look!  St. Nick found us in Queensland too!


So that, no, we really haven't missed the snow.  Thanks for asking, though!

Notes to Self (And Photo of Kids with Santa!)

Note to Self:  Never again install a new computer the first weekend of summer break and expect to be able to sit down to it again before the next school year starts.    Note also that the above applies in triplicate if there is also a new baby in the house.

The new baby thing should not be an issue ever again.  Unless the universe has a really wicked sense of humour and surprises me with triplets in my mid forties.

Note to Universe:  Would not really be funny.



AWW!

Note to Self!  Note to Self!  Note to Self!  Will never ever write great German-American-Australian novel if keep having children every Christmas.

HAPPY NEW YEAR.