2014 went by in a haze of exhaustion/depression/anxiety/hypothyroidism/anemia and mental illness. Not necessarily mine, for once. What DOES happen when a person whose mental condition requires truth collides with one whose mental condition exists on lies and manipulation? It is a Stephen King "what if" scenario: Autistic Spectrum Disorder meets Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Thank you to Dee for recognising the second disorder when I described it so that I was able to educate myself and understand at least part of what was happening to me.
One pub, four churches, a butcher, a baker and lots of vintage/retro shops later, Dayboro is the haven I have been searching for.
Couldn't find it in a bottle; the St. John's Wort only stifled the symptoms. Giving my red blood cells the iron they were begging for helped some, as did finally giving my metabolism some thyroxine to run on. And yeah, I am still relying on those B12 injections to keep me running.
I'm still tired a lot of the time. But now I'm mellow and happy and tired instead of stressed out and anxious and tired.
And that's a start!
|December 2012. Flat tire in Beerburrum.|
Damon and I took the kids to our annual Christmas nativity church service again this year. Only this time the church didn't tell us that we were sinners for not believing the same way they did, or rant about Israeli and U.S. politics or simply bore us to death. (Which is what has happened the last three years at the Hip-Hop Christmas Carol, the Uniting Church of Australia and the Catholic Church, respectively.) This year, Pastor Gary spoke about unwrapping our Gift. And then we prayed for rain.
Six rain-drenched weeks later, I've mentioned to Gary that we might let God know that we're good on the rain now.
Six weeks later, I feel as if I am emerging from a life-affirming hibernation. We've only left Dayboro to go to the amusement parks on the Gold Coast. And I really don't ever want to leave it at all.
But school started yesterday. And the old problems are cropping up already, like weeds after six weeks of rain. (Sorry. Had to be said!)
|December 2012. Flat tire somewhere else.|
The tarot cards I bought on December 12 told me I would be travelling, but I had hoped they meant it spiritually or emotionally. Or at least meant a trip to the Pacific Islands!
No, Pastor Gary would NOT be happy about the tarot cards. Although, funny enough, they were the things that pointed me towards going to church. I also FINALLY read War and Peace around Christmas time. And The Count of Monte Cristo. I am now rereading Les Miserables. Once you get into the writers from the early 1800s, it is really hard to go back to Sci-Fi and Romance!
And yes, all these old dudes believed in a divine purpose for man.
|The Abbey, 2013. What it should be.|
I have been able to do this for over six weeks but now the year is starting and we have spotted three of the five most offensive culprits in the last two days. Number one allows her husband to molest her children. We don't need to see her again. Number two is just competitive and controlling. Which is a recipe for disaster if you are trying to deal with me and mine! The three we have seen lately are just plain competitive and nasty and mean. And they don't mean well for me or for my children. Oddly enough, all three are in competition with myself and Ryan. Why Ryan and I evoke this enmity in people who are less than happy with themselves is a question I need answered.
|Indigenous Australian Art Exhibit at Art Museum in Brisbane. 2012|
I have grown enough to know that I don't need to be friends with everyone, that I don't even need to particularly like everyone (beyond in that Namaste, love your neighbour as yourself kind of way), and that I certainly don't care anymore if they don't like me. This is a HUGE step for me.
Ryan has always felt this way.
|The Abbey, 2012. Familiar friend being kind and making us feel special even before we knew her!|
What I'd really like to learn in 2015 - in a year where all of my dreams are being realised - is how to negate that bitter hate when it is directed against me and my family only because we are happy and doing well.
I don't know if I'll find the answer in classical literature any more than I will find it in the tarot cards. I suspect I may find it in community work and positive prayer. And I hope that, when I do find it, it speaks to me in a language that I am spiritually aware enough to understand.