Thursday, November 7, 2013
On Happiness, Gratitude and Surrender
Something I have been noticing since Ryan started working with her second-hand, off the track, borrowed from a neighbour, thin and for the most part untrained Standardbred mare. With borrowed tack and equipment, a small riding ring at the bottom of the paddock made by Andrew and a friend riding their dirt bikes around in ovals for an hour.
Nothing pisses off a dissatisfied person more than when you are more satisfied than they are with less than they have!
Nothing pisses a competitive person off more than when you aren't competing with them and they feel you are beating them anyway.
Nothing pisses off an unhappy person more than someone who is happy with so little.
Ryan is so grateful for all that she has. She doesn't worry about what she doesn't have or about what others have that she doesn't. She is so happy with what she has: a friend in the paddock to ride and train. This includes throwing volley balls around and chasing her around fields and all sorts of whacky stuff but the horse seems to be responding to and trusting Ryan more and more every day.
Nothing pisses off people who believe that life has to be hard more than to see someone enjoying theirs.
Nothing pisses off those of us who are struggling to attain our dreams more than a person who is already living them every moment.
Animals live in the moment. So do people on the spectrum.
Nothing is more mysterious than a curse (or a disease or disorder) that is also a gift.
She lives in the moment: Buddhist scripture, Tao, Hindu and New Age Christian.
She doesn't care about possessions. She knows that no living creature belongs to another and that she has what she needs from the earth at this present moment: Native American, Indigenous Australian and other pre-industrial societies.
She is the creator of her own life: Hindu and New Age.
Let me tell you, nothing is more annoying that struggling to make the world better for your special needs child, or to make your special needs child better able to face the world than the gradual awareness that she was born knowing the spiritual beliefs you have been working towards your whole life and that she is, in fact, already creating her own world.
That she has done so, quite happily, with no interference from you!
And that you still aren't brave enough to completely surrender and follow her lead.